If your own story doesn't inspire you, it's time to change it
Who’s writing this version of me?
I never really asked myself if the story I live inspires me. I was just moving through life, comfortable in my own bubble, satisfied with what I was experiencing and accepting that this was simply how things were.
And that worked. Until one day, Cris shared something that changed my mindset:
“If your own story doesn’t inspire you, it’s time to change it.”
I can’t recall exactly when he said it, but I remember how it landed, like a moment that shifts your perspective entirely.
We all live by a story, a narrative about who we are, where we’ve been, and what we’re capable of. This story shapes our identity, our choices, and ultimately, our lives.
But what happens when that story no longer inspires us? When it starts to feel too small, too limiting?
Your story is not set in stone
You are not the mistakes you’ve made. You are not the failures you fear. You are not the version of yourself that settled, played small, or got stuck.
When I play padel, I tend to obsess over the shots I miss. One bad swing, one misstep and suddenly, that’s all I remember. The good shots? The points we won? They fade into the background.
My partner does the same. After a missed shot, I saw how quickly she fell into frustration, forgetting how well she had played until that moment. I gently reminded her not to let one shot define her game. She had done great so far.
That moment also reminded me how easily we write ourselves into stories of inadequacy. We replay the misses and downplay the wins. We carry the weight of a single moment as if it defines the whole match.
But it doesn’t. And it shouldn’t.
Too often, we live inside outdated narratives: “I’m just not good at that.”, “I’m not the kind of person who…”. “This is just who I am.”
We repeat these lines, unaware of how much they hold us back.
But stories can evolve. And if the current chapter feels uninspiring, you have the power and the responsibility to rewrite the next one.
Turn the page
To begin transforming your story, reflect honestly:
Do my words about myself make me feel stronger or weaker?
What parts of my story do I keep repeating that no longer serve me?
Am I following my own path or what others expect?
What would my story sound like if I believed in myself more?
What beliefs about myself do I need to challenge or let go of?
Let your story sing with possibility, rooted in your values and expanding toward the future you envision.
A helpful way to move through it:
Your story isn’t over. Not even close. And if the current chapter isn’t lighting a fire in you, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you're ready for growth. You can stay stuck in a story that drains you, or you can rise into one that empowers you.
What story do you want to tell a year from now?
What needs to change today for that to happen?
Andreea
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